Thursday, February 18, 2016

My Health: Benefits of Stretching

Benefits of Stretching:

✔Flexibility.
✔Increased range of motion in joints.
✔Reduce stress.
✔Alleviate lower back pain.
✔Helps with muscle soreness.

I've been making sure I concentrate more on stretching and warming up my body before and after workouts. I suffer from lower back pain and SI joint pain if I don't keep my muscles in check. I want to improve my flexibility and get back on my Yoga as well. How can you get this exercise amd stretching in?  Make a plan and set a schedule. My life changes and I make the adjustments the best I can. You'll feel better overall including a healthy diet, exercise, & stretching in your life.

My Marriage


My Love and I on our wedding day.

It's been 5 months of marriage for Nygel and I. In this short time, I have already learned so much.  Marriage is truly a different ball game from dating. You do change, but it can be a positive change if you let it.  These are things that I have been working on before our marriage as well.  You can't be successful in marriage if you were not preparing for this journey. Here are some of the things that I'm learning/adjusting to:

You have to learn how to communicate:
        I communicate better when I am able to have time to think and write down my thoughts.  That is not always the case when I need to share how I am feeling with Nygel. I also had the habit of holding onto what was bothering me and he clearly saw it on my face and I said nothing was wrong in an attempt to "let it go." I also did this because of my past relationships.  Guys really did not want to hear what's on my mind. I've learned that it's much easier to just go ahead and talk about it.
        He likes to know what's on my mind. He even "checks in" with me to make sure he's doing what he needs to fulfill my needs.  It caught me off guard at first because I wasn't expecting it, but how awesome is that?! You are able to check in often with your significant other to make sure they are taken care of. It seems like something so simple and easy right?  The truth is we get so caught up in our day to day lives, we can lose touch with our partner.  Work life can be very demanding and stressful at times and we can carry that home with us. I look forward to going home to my best friend  venting, talking and laughing about life and our day to day.
         The way you deliver a message also impacts the response you receive.  I am more conscious of my tone when speaking to him.

Learn how he likes to be loved:
        Everyone has what is called their "Love Language." This means there are certain ways you like to be loved.  You may not realize it, but you are more responsive to certain acts of affection over others.
        I have to pay attention to his feelings. Show him love and affection.  The thing about love and affection, it has to be in the way he sees love and receives love. I was showing him love through things like cooking for him and making sure he didn't have to worry much and be at peace at home and to spend time with him.  While he appreciated what I did, he didn't connect with me or respond in the way I hoped.
        He needs to be touched and told he's loved regularly. I send him random messages letting him know I am thinking of him and how I appreciate him.  I show him he's wanted and needed. I play video games and watch anime with him.  I take genuine interest in what he likes. This change or adjustment did not happen overnight for me.  I refuse to let my man go out into the world not satisfied.

You have to believe in your spouse:
        Most people in general have ambitions, goals, and dreams.  I am a believer that a man without a vision or doesn't have a goal will be a restless and at times unhappy soul.  If you cannot truly support your man in what he wants out of life, there will be problems in your relationship. As his wife, I have the job of supporting and believing in him.  I am also be his ear and guide as to helping him go in the right direction and staying on track.  He and I discuss our goals and aspirations and how to achieve them TOGETHER.
        For example he is writing books.  We talk about his characters and what makes sense.  I read though chapters to see if it is getting the message across in the way he wants it to be conveyed or he just wants my thoughts as a reader.  Me competing as a bodybuilder, Nygel supports me by training with me in the gym.  Days I may not want to go, he will push me to go. He will help me with my posing for the stage.

You have to submit:
        Not allowing a man to be a man is a problem many of us women have today (That's a topic for another day.).  I mean yes we have our own car, our own place, and can pay our own bills, but now it's time to have a partner to help take on your load. Good men are groomed to work and be providers. He is the leader of your household. When you are handling everything yourself, what do you need a man for? When agreeing be a man's wife before God, your family and friends, in my mind, you agreeing this man is the right man to lead you in the direction God would have your family to go. This mean trusting the decisions he makes.  That's not to say that you don't counsel him and give your input for what is best for your family, but you two need to touch and agree on the decisions and work as a team.
        Nygel and I have and will disagree on how to handle certain situations and that's normal.  What I have learned to do is allow him time to come to the decision that works best for us.  I know he does the same for me. He may not get it in the time that I want, but he gets it just in the time we need. Unless it is something that will be detrimental to our lives, we can agree to disagree and support each other.  It's also what many call choosing your battles wisely. I trust that he will make the right decision for my family. You cannot be a selfish married person.  The world doesn't revolve around just you anymore.  You have someone else's livelihood to consider in connection with your own.
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I am in no way shape or form a marriage guru.  I have not been at it long enough, but these are things that have helped us grown in the very important beginning stages of our marriage.  Love isn't a destination. It is a journey with your lover as your companion. We are constantly changing.  Our goal is to work hard to stay in tuned with the other. We are working hard to stay connected and I know we will constantly adjust when factors change in out lives.  Being open to change and adjustments and compromise has been my saving grace.

Find out your Love Language here


Thursday, February 11, 2016

My Selfies

I have been enjoying my journey of self-love and I'm not ashamed of it. I love my selfies and I lovelooking at my body in the mirror. I love my freckles, my beauty marks and my stretch marks. They are a apart of me and apart of my life's journey. I've embrace my imperfections. There was once a time I was afraid to let my light shine. I refuse to dim my light to make others comfortable. Take me as I am or move along. God created me in his image to be beautiful, creative, talented, and one of a kind; not afraid or ashamed of myself. Some may consider it bragging or showy, but I consider it showing what I consider a blessed life.

I'm a selfie Queen
We often get so caught up in what others are doing and how they are presenting themselves to the world, we tend to forget to sweep around our own front door. If we were more concerned with bettering ourselves, we wouldn't be too worried with what the other person is doing that we may find so offensive. What they are doing may not be offensive. You just may be a little envious they are doing what they desire and they are being successful and happy.  Individuals secure in themselves will congratulate and encourage positivity.

Ladies and gents, I encourage you to truly embrace who you are.  Love every inch of your body and your personality.  Step our of faith and take some risks to better yourself.  Be the best version of yourself in this you possibly can be.  If that is your focus, I feel things that used to bother you before, won't bother you as much.

Though my body is "ideal" for some, it was not for me and I kept it covered and avoided photos.

 

Friday, February 5, 2016

My Heart

If you are seeing a lot of red today, It's because the American Heart Association asks everyone to wear red in order to raise awareness for heart disease in women. Here are a few facts about heart disease:
  • Go RED day was designed to promote healthier lives for women of all ages.
  • 1 in 3 women are affected by heart disease in the U.S.
  • Almost 44 million American women are living with heart disease.
  • Studies have shown that after menopause, women have an even higher risk for heart disease. Estrogen seem to promote better cholesterol profiles.
  • In the first year following a heart attack women are 40 percent more likely to die than men.
  • In the six years following a heart attack, women are twice as likely to have a second event as compared to men with similar disease.


The risk factors for heart disease are the same in both men and women:
  • Smoking
  • Diabetes
  • High Cholesterol
  • High Blood Pressure
  • Family History of Heart Disease
  • Obesity

Your health is your responsibility.  Always address your concerns with your healthcare provider. If you don't feel like they are adequately addressing you needs, then take your life and money to someone who will. 



Source: http://www.foxnews.com/health/2016/02/05/national-wear-red-day-what-women-need-to-know-about-heart-disease.html