Tuesday, August 30, 2016

Kaepernick's Protest

I can understand why some maybe upset and find what Kaepernick did in protest disrespectful, but you know what else I find disrespectful?

I find it disrespectful when government officials wrongly kill people and get paid leave instead of being prosecuted.

I find it disrespectful when a soldier who serves their country can come home from a deployment and not get the proper support they need to become a part of the civilian population and sometimes end up homeless or without proper healthcare.

I find it disrespectful that a woman can be raped and the man responsible gets a couple months in jail because the judge doesn't want to ruin the man's future.

I find it disrespectful that in this country people of privilege are told to shut up and be grateful for what they have instead of being supported when speak up for others who are less fortunate.

I find it disrespectful that in this country a man who says America isn't great, and incites racist, sexist, and bigoted behavior is the Republican nominee for President of the United States.

I find it disrespectful to the people of this country that we speak about what our country represents but we don't fairly uphold those values.

I understand people feel what Colin is doing is disrespectful, but I also understand that there is are serious problems in this country being ignored. People protest peacefully and that's fine for the majority because the protest can be ignored and the majority keep on with their lives.  This issue is brought to the forefront of many people's consciousness and it makes them uncomfortable because it's something they have to address personally not knowing that many people  (including myself) live with this discomfort daily.

What Colin is doing is bringing the issues into an arena where it is hard to ignore and it's impacting something people care about. Now being confronted with it, people get mad and harp on his wrong doing and deflect what's at the heart of the matter.

We have a man crying out for his fellow Americans and putting what he has on the line trying to fight for what is right. I thought that is what patriotism is about? Or those rights only for a select few?

Friday, August 5, 2016

Our Blended Family

In July we celebrated our son's 7th birthday.  It was such a fun day.  We spent a few hours at the trampoline park with friends and family. We had the kids jumping and some of us adults were jumping as well. It was so awesome to see so many people come out and celebrate Jeremiah's birthday.  I took a picture with Jeremiah's  mom, Latoya and sent it to her.  Later that evening my husband showed me what she posted on Facebook.  As I read her caption, I could not help but feel honored and be filled with joy because of her words.

"Jeremiah has been blessed with 2 awesome moms...she is a blessing."

Not everyone would be comfortable with sharing the title of Mom with another woman who has a part in their child's life.  Latoya does not have to refer to me in that manner but she does. I greatly appreciate what she's done. To me it says that she trusts me to fill in the role when she is isn't around.  She knows the special bond she holds with her son is one of a kind and cannot be replaced. She is trusting me with her son's care, safety, and well-being. I value this trust and I do not take it lightly.

I share this moment because it's easy to see the negative connotations that come with being with someone who has a child or children from a prior relationship. It is a choice.  Your choice and no one else's to make.  It is a choice that should be thought out and taken seriously. It can be challenging, but It can work. It just takes respect and maturity from the adults who are involved to know what is important.  What is important is the well-being of the child(ren). I believe it takes a village to raise a child.  My prayer is that Jeremiah will grow up and live a happy life knowing he is loved by many.