Saturday, April 25, 2015

My Lips

I sent a photo jokingly to my fiancé Nygel one morning before heading off to work saying it was my Kylie Jenner lip challenge photo. I joked but it honestly had me bothered.
I was bothered because it's another thing the our culture was made fun of in the past and now this look is so sought after now one a woman of European descent. I wonder how this always happens? I know woman like myself and women of African descent before walking around with these full voluptuous lips and no one goes crazy over them. It seems many things in our culture aren't really cool or acceptable until someone else outside of our culture does it.  People are hurting themselves and getting sent to the hospital over full lips and for what?!
It took me some time to accept some things about me that I didn't think it were beautiful, but I now embrace them. Like these big soup coolers of mine; I used to think they were too big and avoided color. Now color is my bestie. I love red most of all so far.
Just be yourself and accept what God has given you. If there are things you want to change, do it in a safe way where you are putting your life serious danger. If you can avoid surgery, do the hard work and avoid those quick fixes. To my beautiful brother and sisters of color. Continue to embrace your beauty and culture with high regard. Imitation is the greatest form of flattery I hear. I challenge everyone to be self aware. I challenge you to love, care for, and accept the best you that you want to be without the outside influences wanting you to change to fit a mold.

Sunday, April 19, 2015

Self Love

There are different levels to that love. I always said I loved myself but I allowed myself to let people do things to me that were wrong. I didn't love myself as much as I thought. I had to learn to be selfish in a way that allow me to put what best for me in the forefront. It's made me a happier person.
Loving myself evolves over time and it's a serious journey. This self love has improved not just my relationship with my fiancé Nygel, but all relationships I have with people I care about.